Saturday, February 21, 2009

I want a different mom!!!

My mom is crazy always has been and always will be. We grew up walking on egg shells hoping not to set her off, trying to feel her moods. I feel so bad for my dad. I called my mom the other day when I was sick and i asked her for my granny's potato soup recipe, this is what she told me, " I gave it to you once Dana and if you cant find it that's too bad I'm not giving it to you again, go buy some from the store" I called my dad a bit later to check on him because it was apparent my mom was having "one of those days". I told him what mom had said earlier about the recipe he said " I know Dana, I will try and find it for you" then in the background I can hear my mom say, " I thought she was sick, tell her i will pray for her" she was being condescending and making fun of my for being really into knowing Christ. She will go from these mean verbal attacks to buying everyone presents. I feel so bad for my dad:(
Well Justin is gone and that's good, I don't like how he treats me when he drinks. He says not to listen to the names and the mean things he says that it's just the alcohol talking. I think names hurt.,Last night I went to movie night at my church and we watched "Fireproof" if you haven't seen the movie I highly recommend it. I'm going to go buy Justin the book.
We have girl scouts this morning then I need to go get Frontline for the animals, at three I'm going with my new friend Ruth to her pastors house for a women's bible study and fellowship. I babysit her daughter after school. Then I plan on just relaxing with Avery or as Avery would say " chillaxing" have a great Saturday!!!

7 comments:

T said...

Oh Dana, I am sorry your mom is this way. Try to put it behind you. you know how she is, so just ignore her comments, I know it is hard to do, and they hurt, but try, ok. You don't need that negativity.

As far as Justin's mean words while drinking, I don't know what to say, really. Just enjoy your children, your friends, bible study, and keep your spirits up.

Hugs

Brenda said...

Dana ,im sorry about your mom. It is hard to to find Jesus and be in church and Bible study and let go of all that an pray she changes because all you want is her love then you call and she acts that way. Your mom has problems and it isn't you. Justin is a sweety and then he drinks.He has problems too and again it isn;t you. You are doing the right thing.Bring up your children to love and show love.Bring them up in Christ and grow together.Even adults rebel when they see someone happier. Just don't let them bring you down with them. Remember also you are not fighting flesh and blood ,but principalities in high places.In other words the devil is mad as heck =) you must be doing something right. Pray and claim your husband for Christ and rebuke the spirit of alcohol.Lay hands on anything he touches and even his pillow and pray for the Holy Spirit to chase him down.Do this is private so he doesn't know. This is called standing in the gap.
For your mom I feel this has something to do with her childhood and what she saw and was treated. Pray God open her eyes and see how she is and the hurt she causes and ask him to let her deal with the pain in her life. It maybe slow,but show her love no matter what. Love is the greatest gift.
Love you girl,Brenda

Jane said...

Hi Dana,

I am very sorry that you got the response out of your mother that you did. Please know that you have many blogger friends who are wishing you well right now!

Hugs,

Jane

Haf Dozen Reasons....... said...

Sorry to hear about your tough time. Prayer, prayer, prayer!!!

I will be praying for you too!

Celticspirit said...

Your mother acts this way because she is very unhappy so she projects it onto others and mainly those that she loves. Just don't respond to her acts of unkindness. If she sees that she will get no reaction out of you maybe she will stop what she's doing.
When people drink (I grew up with an alcoholic stepfather) they can become a different person. But it's really not fair for them to use drinking as an excuse to be mean to others. Does your church have couple counseling? Just a thought here.

The Mind of a Mom said...

Okay Dana when did your mom become my mom. My mother turns on a dime and it makes you take a step back and wonder did that really just happen. And then I need to know when your husband became my husband. When mine drinks (which is a lot) he is just unbearable.
My heart goes out to you. Hang in there Dana and know you are not in this alone
BIG SoccerMom HUGGSS

Sharon said...

Dear Dana,

I'm so sorry that your mother was not kind to you and that Justin was drinking. You have a lot going on in your life. Have you talked with your pastor about these issues? I feel bad that you have had people around you that are not very nice. You are such a sweet person. I will be praying for you.

Hugs, Sharon